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Are Married People Lonelier than Single People?

Are Married People Lonelier than Single People?

 

A recent study published in The Journal of Social and Personal Relationships examined the relationships with friends, neighbors, and extended family members, and compared the connections that single people had versus married couples. 

They found that on average, single people spend more time connecting with friends, neighbors, and relatives than married people.

Single people are more likely to give help to, receive help from, and stay in touch with siblings, friends, parents and neighbors than those who are married.

In fact, even if someone has a divorce, they will still spend less time with friends and neighbors, suggesting that the effects of a less social lifestyle can last beyond marriage.

(And maybe we should all be reaching out to our friends who have just gone through a divorce - they might need the company more than they know!)

The study results were able to rule out other factors, like age, kids, education, and income.

So why are married couples so antisocial?

The authors of the study have a few ideas:

  •  People believe that their husband/wife is their soulmate, and should fulfill all social needs
  • Single people may need to make more effort to fulfill their social needs since there is no one to socialize with at home
  • Another theory? Maybe this is another one we can blame on our busy, modern society!

Married people might feel that by the time work/volunteering/the gym/whatever is caught up with (which is never), there is barely time left over to put into a good marriage relationship.

What do you think?

To see the study, check out this link:

http://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0265407515597564

 

If you are married, and worried that you are socializing enough, The Newlywed Handbook (written by the editors of www.thenest.com), has some advice about double dating for married couples:

 

Turn friendly casual friends into new couple friends 

Do you know any cool couples who might be fun to hang out with? These could be friends-of-friends, friends from work, or volunteering, or even neighbors. 

See how you all might enjoy hanging out by starting with a fun activity that gives you lots to talk about, like an "Escape Room", or a ghost tour, or a Teppanyaki - style Japanese restaurant.

Make sure both genders enjoy the company

At first, either the girls or the guys will dominate the conversations and planning - likely the person who set up the connection. But with a bit of effort, you can all enjoy good bonds with new friends at the same time.

The group time will be more satisfying if the girls and the guys get along great - so if the husbands know each other through work, the ladies should eventually make an effort to email each other, and meet for lunch or coffee without the guys too.

Expand your group again!

Four people at a dinner party is great! Three couples is even more fun! If you get four couples - eight people - now you can use your full dishes set from your registry! 

 

Are married people lonelier than single people

 

Make sure to check out our other blog post, "Social tips for Couples"!

 

Do you think married people are lonelier than single people?

 

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Comments 41

 
J.R. on Tuesday, 15 August 2017 20:26

I would agree.

I would agree.
Stacy on Monday, 13 August 2018 04:48

I am single now & not looking for anything other than friends. I try to hang out with others who are single or solo meaning their significant other I can’t or won’t go out to do activities. I remember being in married or in a ltr in which the other was antisocial so I was very lonely .

I am single now & not looking for anything other than friends. I try to hang out with others who are single or solo meaning their significant other I can’t or won’t go out to do activities. I remember being in married or in a ltr in which the other was antisocial so I was very lonely .
Tony tanuj on Saturday, 20 October 2018 11:58

CAN I HELP

CAN I HELP
Andy on Wednesday, 13 September 2017 19:53

Yep I think this is True

Yep I think this is True
sparklejemm on Saturday, 16 September 2017 01:14

I also agree. Not married but in a long term relationship and I find myself feeling quite lonely at times. When I was single it was easier to call up a friend to hang out. My boyfriend and I are not very social as a couple and I miss that socialization.

I also agree. Not married but in a long term relationship and I find myself feeling quite lonely at times. When I was single it was easier to call up a friend to hang out. My boyfriend and I are not very social as a couple and I miss that socialization.
hosein on Friday, 29 September 2017 19:27

but you have a good family now it is more enjoyable you know we should be thankfull
i wish the best think for your family

but you have a good family now it is more enjoyable you know we should be thankfull i wish the best think for your family
Rhi on Sunday, 10 December 2017 14:47

I am married and I am very lonely he 15 years older than me and we are very different from each other I talk a lot and he is quiet I am out door and he is stays home and I don't have any friends I am very depressed. :(

I am married and I am very lonely he 15 years older than me and we are very different from each other I talk a lot and he is quiet I am out door and he is stays home and I don't have any friends I am very depressed. :(
rish on Tuesday, 26 December 2017 21:50

hey dont be sad everything will be fine dont feel that u r alone

hey dont be sad everything will be fine dont feel that u r alone
Debs on Thursday, 11 January 2018 22:11

Me too

Me too
Jana on Friday, 12 January 2018 18:09

I have 7 years different, with my fiancee, we have a 5 month old baby and we are going married in few days. I feel very very lonely, couse I lost my fiance as the friend, now he is just a man who I am going married. The biggest problem is his parents couse they are different nationality as me and they don't accept me as who I am they all the time trying change my nationality. And the most what is worried me, his parents lost not long time ago elderly disable son, so we divide give his name to our son as the middle name, I though I am doing good thing, but unfortunately, his parents calling my son as them son, and they don't see him as grandson.

I have 7 years different, with my fiancee, we have a 5 month old baby and we are going married in few days. I feel very very lonely, couse I lost my fiance as the friend, now he is just a man who I am going married. The biggest problem is his parents couse they are different nationality as me and they don't accept me as who I am they all the time trying change my nationality. And the most what is worried me, his parents lost not long time ago elderly disable son, so we divide give his name to our son as the middle name, I though I am doing good thing, but unfortunately, his parents calling my son as them son, and they don't see him as grandson.
Jana on Friday, 12 January 2018 18:10

Decide not divide.

Decide not divide.
Ngaa on Saturday, 31 March 2018 07:40

Its sad

Its sad
Danni on Friday, 06 July 2018 12:42

I'm the exact same... though he's 25 years older and works while I stay at home. We have moved house 5 times in two years for his work... I'm lonely too!

I'm the exact same... though he's 25 years older and works while I stay at home. We have moved house 5 times in two years for his work... I'm lonely too!
hama on Wednesday, 13 December 2017 23:03

hi

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Debs on Thursday, 11 January 2018 22:15

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Pat on Wednesday, 03 January 2018 01:55

I am happily married, yet feel very lonely because of having no friends. I have plenty of acquaintances due to my job, however, there are no friends. All I can say is that my life feels extremely empty at times. I can’t talk about women’s issues with someone nor can I go out with friends to an event. To sum it up, my life feels like a pile of garbage. I have tried immersing myself in hobbies to take my mind off things, but it only provides relief for the short term. If I had my choice to live my life again, I would rather be a protozoan- not many problems, a simple life and can make copies of myself.

I am happily married, yet feel very lonely because of having no friends. I have plenty of acquaintances due to my job, however, there are no friends. All I can say is that my life feels extremely empty at times. I can’t talk about women’s issues with someone nor can I go out with friends to an event. To sum it up, my life feels like a pile of garbage. I have tried immersing myself in hobbies to take my mind off things, but it only provides relief for the short term. If I had my choice to live my life again, I would rather be a protozoan- not many problems, a simple life and can make copies of myself.
CaseyAnn on Wednesday, 24 January 2018 05:19

I'm happily married but I have no girlfriends. I'm not working at the present time so my closest friend is my nearly 3 year old grandson, who is perfect but demanding and doesn't like girl talk lol. I understand what you mean, I would give anything to have someone to talk girl stuff to, cause my husband hates it. Lol

I'm happily married but I have no girlfriends. I'm not working at the present time so my closest friend is my nearly 3 year old grandson, who is perfect but demanding and doesn't like girl talk lol. I understand what you mean, I would give anything to have someone to talk girl stuff to, cause my husband hates it. Lol
Tumaj Nuri on Tuesday, 23 January 2018 21:05

Your loneliness starts as soon as u get tired of any relationship u are involved in.

Your loneliness starts as soon as u get tired of any relationship u are involved in.
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